If you’ve read our other blogs, you can tell we’re big fans of women being open and honest with their doctors. But, with some subjects, we know how hard that can be. A lot of women feel embarrassed, ashamed or just afraid to talk to their OBGYN. This is especially true of women who are dealing with specific significant issues in life. But, trust us, putting off that doctor’s visit or trying to pretend everything’s just peachy when you go in for your annual appointment isn’t doing you or your body any favors.

So, in the spirit of the new year, we’re going to list three significant issues women are afraid to talk about with their doctor. Let’s get started with the most common.


  1. Irregular or very heavy periods

This one may not have as much to do with fear as it does with confusion. There is a lot of information out there about what is considered “normal” for a period. Women sometimes trade stories about periods and this causes them to believe that a pattern they may have thought was abnormal is “just fine.” The truth is, if you are over 21 and your period lasts more than a week or if you routinely miss periods, it’s a good idea to talk to your OBGYN about it. If your periods are so heavy that you have to change pads every hour, or you are passing clots larger than a nickel, see your OBGYN or doctor right away. Don’t suffer just because you heard from a friend or read on the internet that your symptoms were “normal.” If you are uncomfortable with your period, talk about it with your doctor.

2. Infertility

Infertility is a painful subject for many women. Because of cultural taboos, customs or merely an ingrained fear, many women do not want to admit that they have difficulty becoming pregnant. But, if you don’t face infertility head on, you’ll continue to suffer in silence. If you’ve been trying to get pregnant for over a year and you have not been successful, it’s time to see your doctor. After an exam, they may diagnose you with infertility. As scary as that sounds, a diagnosis of infertility does not mean you can not have children. We now have many treatments which can help couples dealing with infertility increase the chance of becoming pregnant. But, for any of those treatments to work, you must acknowledge the problem.

3. Sexually Transmitted Diseases

While we have made great strides in this area over the past thirty years, there is often still shame and embarrassment associated with symptoms of STDs. Many women who experience possible signs of an STD, they put off talking to their doctor out of either fear or shame. If you have pain when urinating, lower abdominal pain, vaginal discharge or pain during intercourse and you may have come in contact with an STD, you absolutely need to see your doctor as soon as possible. And, remember, be open and honest about the issues you are facing.

At Ladies First, we’re passionate about ending the silence on these and other important health issues. We want to encourage every woman not to let embarrassment or fear keep her from living the healthiest life possible.

If you’re looking for an OBGYN you can feel comfortable opening up to, we’d love to hear from you! You can contact us with any questions or schedule an appointment right on our webpage.